Repair attempts: how couples recover after conflict-2
Why the ability to repair, not the absence of conflict, predicts relationship longevity.
John Gottman's research found that the success of a repair attempt depends less on what is said and more on the emotional climate of the relationship at that moment.
What does it says about emotions:
“It's not conflict that destroys relationships. It's the failure to repair.”
— John Gottman
A repair attempt can be as simple as touching your partner's arm, using humour, or saying "I need to slow down, can we start again?"
